I know I'm late, the topic has been done and over with mostly but just felt like giving my two cents on this. while I'
m loving the photographers wise and graceful stance about all this and how it seems to be doing good for Mr.Arshad too, the entire hype does reflect a few things about common people psyche.
Well, for starters, looks arent the property of a particular class alone. Yes, there are all sorts of treatments and facial and hair care that can only be bought with money but Allah hasn't differentiated His blessings of beauty or intellect based on wealth. Yet, unknowingly, we tend to associate these with the financial status of a person. Yes, grooming makes a huuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuge difference so even if your looks are not that attractive, with proper grooming, confidence and style, you can easily be a stunner at any party.
Maybe its also that we dont really give compliments to people who come from the working class like tailor, waiter, maid or chai wala:) How often do we say to our guard that you look smart today or to our maid, this color suits you. It's as if they neither deserve nor should expect to be given compliments for what are they but mere means of our comfort and for our service. What do they need looks or compliments for and when can they ever look good enough to be noticeable for us. They are the invisibles, the robots that serve us,open our doors, clear our paths, wash our dishes, pave our roads, sweep our floors but pretty, handsome, good looking, smart, intelligent, cute, brave, wise, pious, those are not the terms we commonly use to define them:)
I know its not totally true but this is a general trend we may have developed over the years unconsciously and i'm sure we can very easily change it too, by being more considerate, humble, attentive, kind and most importantly, by developing the sight to see beyond the walls of class segregation.
I have had helpers who had amazing, attractive looks and in my own head, I would give them a complete makeover and grooming and they wouldnt look any less than a princess. So what if they are born in families that do not afford to rejoice their beauty or intellect, a small compliment or encouragement can give their self-esteem a boost, making them feel good about themselves, giving them realization and reasons to be thankful to Allah and take life positively despite the mountain of challenges it may hold.
m loving the photographers wise and graceful stance about all this and how it seems to be doing good for Mr.Arshad too, the entire hype does reflect a few things about common people psyche.
Well, for starters, looks arent the property of a particular class alone. Yes, there are all sorts of treatments and facial and hair care that can only be bought with money but Allah hasn't differentiated His blessings of beauty or intellect based on wealth. Yet, unknowingly, we tend to associate these with the financial status of a person. Yes, grooming makes a huuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuge difference so even if your looks are not that attractive, with proper grooming, confidence and style, you can easily be a stunner at any party.
Maybe its also that we dont really give compliments to people who come from the working class like tailor, waiter, maid or chai wala:) How often do we say to our guard that you look smart today or to our maid, this color suits you. It's as if they neither deserve nor should expect to be given compliments for what are they but mere means of our comfort and for our service. What do they need looks or compliments for and when can they ever look good enough to be noticeable for us. They are the invisibles, the robots that serve us,open our doors, clear our paths, wash our dishes, pave our roads, sweep our floors but pretty, handsome, good looking, smart, intelligent, cute, brave, wise, pious, those are not the terms we commonly use to define them:)
I know its not totally true but this is a general trend we may have developed over the years unconsciously and i'm sure we can very easily change it too, by being more considerate, humble, attentive, kind and most importantly, by developing the sight to see beyond the walls of class segregation.
I have had helpers who had amazing, attractive looks and in my own head, I would give them a complete makeover and grooming and they wouldnt look any less than a princess. So what if they are born in families that do not afford to rejoice their beauty or intellect, a small compliment or encouragement can give their self-esteem a boost, making them feel good about themselves, giving them realization and reasons to be thankful to Allah and take life positively despite the mountain of challenges it may hold.
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